Adapting and adjusting occur simultaneously in grief, externally and internally. In grief, you are compelled to reconcile the loss of your loved one to your life going forward. Reconciliation within yourself requires both adjusting and adapting. As the inevitable advance of adjustment proceeds on your upward climb out of the valley of the shadow of death, you adapt. You are positively reconciled to your experience of grief. Your renewed confidence then quietly becomes a force for your outreach of understanding to others who grieve.