What does this mean?” “Why did he/she die?” “Why my child?” When your loved one dies, you are tormented by questions. You want answers because you are perplexed. When tragedy strikes, you are stunned. For a while, questions may be the constant theme of your chaotic thoughts. When you ask “Why?” it is a cry of pain that reflects your anguish and confusion. It is the emotional response of your heart to grief.