The infrastructure of life consists of both beginning and end. Perhaps like most, you would like to control the “when” of both the beginning and end of most things in life. No more than you can control the exact moment that a child is born can you control death or the end of your grief. Each person starts at a different point in grief; likewise, the end of grief comes in a different way for each. Grief may have begun as a small wave that swelled through stages of illness, crashing onto the shores of your well-ordered life as the end of life neared. Grief may end as the tide of sorrow retreats to honor, acceptance, and hope.