The festival of Christmas celebrates the season and the day. Likely your secular reference is tradition, now changed by the loss of your loved one. Is it too much effort to put up a tree? Do you decorate, or should the ornaments stay packed away this year? Is it too painful for you to send Christmas cards? Is gift selection a daunting task without your loved one? As you gather with family, or others you choose as family, you realize that the festival of Christmas will never be the same again without your loved one.