It is a duty of grief to learn the fine art of dismissing the sometimes thoughtless comments of others. Pronouncements meant to console you are often presumptions that trivialize grief: “It’s for the best,” “Everyone dies sooner or later,” “She’s not suffering anymore,” “He’s better off.” You are hurt and upset when careless comments add to the indignities of grief. You may feel that those who fail to understand your grief cannot be entrusted with the pain of your heart. Forgive and forget those words that hurt your heart.